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September 10, 2025 ยท 01:18:14

Cut to the Chaste w/ Michaela Okland

Julia is joined by bestie of the pod Michaela Okland to explore the practice of chosen celibacy, from its ancient history to its resurgence in modern culture. The girlies share their own celibacy journeys, revisit iconic historical figures who opted out of sex and marriage, and discuss the radical 4B movement gaining attention in South Korea, where women are walking away from men entirely. Digressions include the karmic power of The Melting Pot, graduating from Men Are Trash discourse, and dating after grief and loss. This episode was produced and researched by Julia Hava and edited by Livi Burdette. Find Michaela Okland (@michaelaokland) on Twitter and IG! To support the podcast on Patreon and access 50+ bonus episodes, mediasodes, and more, visit patreon.com/binchtopia and become a patron today. SOURCES: 4B movement: what is it and how did it start? | The Week After Trump's win, some women are considering the 4B movement | CNN Are antidepressants making you asexual? | The Spectator Book of the 10th Muse: Love and Marriage Boston Marriages Boston Marriages: Romantic but Asexual Relationships Among Contemporary Lesbians Chaste Marriage In The Middle Ages Going boysober: the women who turned to celibacy in 2024 How Celibate Women Became a Threat | TIME "I Don't Miss It": Celibacy Is Bringing Some Women Peace Less Is More: Welcome To The Rise Of #Celibacy Neither 'incel' nor 'volcel': Relational accounts of UK women's sexual abstinence Re-reading (Vestal) virginity Sex-positive feminism had its moment โ€“ and now it has been replaced by voluntary celibacy | Arwa Mahdawi | The Guardian SWORN VIRGINS OF THE BALKAN HIGHLANDS The 4B movement: envisioning a feminist future uwith/in a non-reproductive future in Korea The last of Albania's 'sworn virgins' The rise of voluntary celibacy: 'Most of the sex I've had, I wish I hadn't bothered' | Sex | The Guardian Women's Agency Through Spinsterhood and Celibacy โ€“ Childfree History Museum. Women's rights and the rise of the 4B movement - University of Birmingham Why Gen Zers Are Choosing Celibacy